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Thread: Christmas and my son

  1. #1
    Join Date
    Jan 2007
    Sarnia, Ontario, Canada

    Christmas and my son

    Off to the Muskokas (where the moose and bears are) for Christmas with the in-laws (O-drat). The grass is hardly covered with snow here and I hear that they have about a metre or more of snow. Hopefully the weather stays clear for the drive up and back and the roads are dry.

    The only reason that we are going up this year is because this will be my son's last Christmas and the last time he will be going up. Its been a year since his last tumour operation and they took him off of chemo a week ago. He dosen't know nor does his sister that he probably won't see March. The 4th tumour has beaten the newest of the designer type chemos ($3000 a week) and the alternate chemo - the tumour is still growing

    We have been offered a cottage up there that is wheel chair acssessable for four days free of charge and rented a van today and the company told us not to worry about milage.

    I haven't done too much woodworking this year with the medical problem. One of us is with him all the time in case of a seizure or falls. He has gained over a 100 lbs or more...his skin and brain are acting like a sponge holding water. He can hardly walk, his right arm is useless and he can still use his right leg enough to goto the bathroom and he has a hard time speaking clearly. The steroids use is to keep the brain from swelling. Another side effect of the steroids is large stretch marks on his chest, side and back...also there is a bit of a hump where the neck joins the body.

    We are told that that it will be quick and painless and probably will happen while he is sleeping.

    So if you kid does something wrong or breaks something - be happy that they are still around to enjoy.

    Have a Merry Christmas

    Sarnia, Ontario

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Oct 2006
    somewhere east of Queen Creek, AZ - South East of Phoenix
    I am so sorry to hear about your son. It is tough when one of our kids is sick but to have one terminal I can only imagine. My prayers for your son and your whole family.
    "There’s a lot of work being done today that doesn’t have any soul in it. The technique may be the utmost perfection, yet it is lifeless. It doesn’t have a soul. I hope my furniture has a soul to it." - Sam Maloof
    The Pessimist complains about the wind; The Optimist expects it to change;The Realist adjusts the sails.~ William Arthur Ward

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Sep 2007
    Plainwell, Michigan
    Rod there are no words that you have not heard already so I will not add any except to treasure every moment with your son and family, reflect on all the good of your lives. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

  4. #4
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    Jul 2009
    Amherst, New Hampshire
    Words totally escape me. I can't imagine that pain your family is going through. I am so sorry.
    My thoughts and prayers are with you.
    Faith, Hope & Charity

  5. #5
    Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  6. #6
    Join Date
    Nov 2006
    London, Ontario
    Quote Originally Posted by Rod Upfold View Post
    Off to the Muskokas (where the moose and bears are) for Christmas with the in-laws (O-drat). The grass is hardly covered with snow here and I hear that they have about a metre or more of snow. Hopefully the weather stays clear for the drive up and back and the roads are dry.
    last weekend I was up in Haliburton, ON. There is at least 18" of snow on the ground. The trees are coated as well. It was gorgeous. And the roads were clear also, double bonus. Some lakes are open, and some are frozen over. On Sunday we paused in our drive home to watch 3 deer wander across the road. I hope you find some of the same beauty up there as well.

    best wishes,
    There's usually more than one way to do it... ........

  7. #7

    I will put your son and his family on my daily prayer list. I wish I could share with you words of comfort but it is not to be. Please know that you and your son are loved. What a most difficult situation - it is beyond my ability to understand what you have and will be going through -- please stay strong - rely on friends and family. sharing these things are hard but is good that you can put these things into words.

    Rev. Paul
    Remember the tea kettle - it is always up to its neck in hot water, yet it
    still sings!

  8. #8
    Join Date
    Dec 2006
    Puyallup, WA

    I'll keep your son and family in my prayers. Here's to hoping that your "holiday" is safe and filled with love.


  9. #9
    Join Date
    Feb 2007
    North West Indiana
    Rod, my brother's oldest son at the age of 9 on Christmas Eve day was diagnosed with luekemia (sp?). That following October he died. It was at times such a horrific battle, he gave it his all. I do not know where my brother and sister in law found or find the strength. My wife and I moved about 25 miles from them in June of that year when I started teaching. We had their other two children in our home the night he died at home. I have a grandson that just came home from Riley's children hospital again today. At this time he isn't thought to have a life threatening situation. I do not know why God takes them from us nor why he gives them to us in the first place. All I know and believe, your son is going where he will be free of the meds and pain. That doesn't help us here on earth, for that I have no words. Please, please find strength to enjoy your time, miracles do happen, the form of the miracle is not for us to know. So I am speaking from some experience, you will be in my prayers, hug him, love him, love this time and family. Don't keep thinking of the last time, think of it as THIS time. The past is past, the future will be, live in the now for now. Feel free to pm me with any thing, my brother has recently gotten his minister's license and is more at peace than at any other time I can remember him being. I can connect you two and he would be more than willing to email/talk with you.

    God and family, the rest is icing on the cake. I'm so far behind, I think I'm in first place!


  10. #10
    Join Date
    Dec 2007
    Tellico Plains, Tennessee
    I'm not sure what I want to say, but my eyes teared reading your story... I don't know if I would have your strength if something happened to my son... but I was taught that God had a purpose for each of his children.... when he takes them early, they have finished their task here and he's taking them home again.
    Tellico Plains, TN
    My parents taught me to respect my elders, but it's getting harder and harder to find any.
    If you go looking for trouble, it will usually find you.

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