Need some words of wisdom to help me with my kids

Another "yep"

But what do I know, they tell me I'm still a kid that married his mom lol
And my boys have always been my buddies. Except Jarrod , he's mama's boy and living 50/50 home and girlfriends , Jake is gone back to school in August.

My brother and I are like night and day although mom swears she raised us both the same. My boys are also night and day; the younger has finished his first couple years of college and went straight into a summer program with one of the professors he successfully petitioned for September's classes. The older boy lives with mom. The older does help out around the house, kicks in cash from odd jobs and is (finally) looking at starting college next year. LOML's older boy had a free ride at Grandma's and had the fine art of sloth down cold. He threw it all away due to false sense of entitlement and an ungrateful attitude. Grandma finally had enough and he moved on. Not alone? Not at all.