Hey CJ, I'm more of a traditional tool guy myself. The little bit I've used carbide though I used it more like a shear scraper. The problem I see most folks have is they just push the tool into the work, and it looks like a herd of angry beavers had a bad night on the town then went to work on it. Drop the handle a little (or perhaps oddly conversely raise the handle a little depending on the cut..) above midpoint and tip the tool about 30-50 degrees on its side then try to cut with the center of the cutting area on the tool. Getting this all "right" with the lathe on can be a lot of moving parts, so when I'm learning a new lathe tool I'll often spend 20 or 30 minutes with the lathe OFF just rotating some round scrap into the tool to see how I can get it to cut. If it's scrubbing wood off you're not going to get a nice piece of work, it has to cut. Different tools like slightly different approaches (and different approaches for different cuts) so imho it pays good dividends to spend some time figuring out where the tool likes to cut. Once I've done that I'll turn the lathe on and take some practice cuts, then turn it off and see what the result looks like. If it's not good.. back to more slow by hand practice approaches. Repeat until there's some form of success. The "turn by hand" is also a really good way to figure out what would be catches. You can easily see how a point would dig in, without having to do the exciting bits.
As for books vs videos.. I would have generally agreed with you until I saw a few folks who REALLY knew their stuff running a lathe. You can get so far reading about results, but seeing them is sometimes a real kick in the pants. One thing I found there was definitely pay attention to what they're doing.. but then watch the video again and see what the wood chips are doing. You can learn a LOT by looking at shavings. If you're not getting shavings, but sawdust... back to the drawing board again.
The only book I'm aware of that specifically discusses carbide tools for wood is the John English book. Like I said I'm more of a traditional tool guy so I don't have it but it gets reasonably decent reviews.
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