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Thread: Robs thought for the day..... whats with Woman???

  1. #1
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    Jun 2008
    GTA Ontario Canada

    Robs thought for the day..... whats with Woman???

    I know we all have tools etc that we have bought and never used. I can understand the genuine collector even thought i am not one.

    But my mystery i am looking to get insight into today is not related to tools of woodworking but to wives and crockery.

    This October i will have been married 22 years.

    When we got married we both had crockery that we got to use for our house. Shortly after I got my wife to buy with my urging whilst in the store a new dinner set. That set has long gone. Not long after being married on a trip to Budapest, Hungry (when the iron curtain just opened up) i purchased a pretty expensive dinner service made by a renowned Hungarian manufacturer. I schlepped this set home to South Africa without it breaking. We talking a full set this is the only pic i can find of the full set. In actual fact there are more pieces in it that in that picture. Incl candle stick holders. So you get the idea.

    I wanted her to have nice set given she likes entertaining at home and setting a full table. So i did and do not expect her to use it each day although frankly I would not mind.

    When i noticed the set we bought together getting shabby as with all tai chi cheap sets (she would not let me buy anything better at the time) the day came when i decided to just go out and buy something that she had talked about but would never buy. Knowing her i made sure to get two sets at the time so as to cater for breakages. I came home and thought ok now we can get rid of the stuff we have and eat off a nice plate.

    No ways. What was done is to get rid of the tai chi stuff and bring out some stoneware set that i had as a bachelor. Once in a blue moon she will bring out the new set or use them when we have company if the Zsolnay set is not being used.

    So I do the dish washing in this house we in (its so darn old it dont have a dishwasher or space for one ) and i got to thinking why is it that woman do this. heck i am 56 now what are we waiting for I definitely am not waiting for any special occasion to use these plates. When i ask her about it she says the "new" set which is now about 6 -8 years old is too good for everyday use.

    Now i could understand this mentality on the part of my Yorkshire mothers generation saving the best for the vicar to have tea on but who/what is the thinking here? These are NOT collector pieces and when she offered one of her sets to the oldest son who has moved out he declined them which put her nose out of joint for a while.

    I know she is not alone in this ( "lost for a word to insert") quest is it a condition all woman are born with? Are there any men here with the same traits towards hording those dinner services for i dont know who to eat on if ever?

    My current solution is planning of a stealth Ninja style sudden disappearance of the current set by that i mean packing them up one day and taking them to salvation army and being done with them, facing the music and consequences and letting her get over it.

    anyone else living with i lost count of how many boxes of porcelain we got in our household? . Thinking of starting an "old dinner service phobia" support group.

    Of course there is always the option of natural attrition by accidentally breaking one every now and then while hand washing and claiming its an age thing. BUt that to me is a waste and someone else less fortunate could get some use out of them. I am just tired with storing things for use later. WHEN???? at 105 when i am drinking hydraulic nutrition sandwiches from a sippy cup.

    I have often wondered if we had a banana tree again, in our backyard whether we would be eating off leaves to save the plates. Poor things.

  2. #2
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    May 2007
    Thomasville, GA
    Rob, if there's one pursuit to avoid, it's understanding women. Love, honor and cherish them - don't even try to understand!
    Bill Arnold
    Citizen of Texas residing in Georgia.
    NRA Life Member and Member of Mensa
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  3. #3
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    Mar 2007
    Escondido, CA
    If that is the most burning question of your day, Rob, you are in good shape. LOL!

    I have one set of dishes. Period. But then I am not the usual sort of woman.

    Well, one set is not exactly true. I use paper plates as well.

    Here is a radical thought. Since you live in that house and eat of those plates (and wash the dishes), simply explain to her you would prefer to get rid of the everyday stuff and use the good stuff. You both deserve it.

    Good luck.

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    Apr 2007
    No, not all of SoCal is Los Angeles!
    Quote Originally Posted by Rob Keeble View Post
    Robs thought for the day..... whats with Woman???
    To ask such a question makes clear that despite your travels, challenges and accomplishments . . . .,

    You have learned nothing grasshopper.

    Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic.
    - Arthur C. Clarke

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    Dec 2012
    Bedford, NH
    Mistake #1: Do not try to understand women! .....................................They are different than men!
    Mistake #2: Do not try to rationalize logical reasoning for their actions!...They are different than men!
    Mistake #3: Accept your situation & go with the flow! ...........................They are different than men!

    And don't forget .................................................. ..............................They are different than men!
    Thoughts entering one's mind need not exit one's mouth!
    As I age my memory fades .... and that's a load off my mind!

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  6. #6
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    Nov 2006
    London, Ontario
    I got a bit lost, let me see if I understand the situation, Rob...

    1) you've got the Zsolnay set -- only for special occasions

    2) you've got another double set -- but only for semi-special occasions -- which you'd rather be the everyday set

    3) You've got your bachelor set -- which is your current everyday set

    4) In the wings is your beloved wife's set from pre-marriage which your son did not want.

    Are there more sets? I got a little lost... kind of like the ball-in-cup magic trick
    There's usually more than one way to do it... ........

  7. #7
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    Feb 2007
    North West Indiana
    Wow, real slow day for you today eh Rob??? Anyway, dinner service, since when is that important to a single young man??? If you want them treasured, wait until your son marries and is settled and then through the years tell his wife about this dinner set. Then hint that she could possibly have them. Then eventually give them to her with all the stories and where they have traveled and all that stuff. She will cherish and treasure them. Problem solved.

    God and family, the rest is icing on the cake. I'm so far behind, I think I'm in first place!


  8. #8
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    Jul 2009
    Amherst, New Hampshire
    We have a very fancy set of china that was my grandmothers. I gets used on holidays or for special guests and that's it.

    We probably have 3 or 4 sets of less expensive dinnerware that my wife changes out every so often.

    My feeling is that I could care less what dishes she uses. If it makes her happy that's good enough for me. I have way more pressing things to think about.
    Faith, Hope & Charity

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    Dec 2006
    Toronto, Canada
    Life is too short to be washing crappy plates.

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    Oct 2006
    somewhere east of Queen Creek, AZ - South East of Phoenix
    Rob take the advice of 40+years and just go with the flow, Ifya try to figure them out you'll go crazy.
    If you are still looking for a dinnerware set you can always pick up one of the Larry the Cable guy collection. attached is a picture of it.
    Attached Thumbnails Attached Thumbnails Dinnerware.jpg  
    "There’s a lot of work being done today that doesn’t have any soul in it. The technique may be the utmost perfection, yet it is lifeless. It doesn’t have a soul. I hope my furniture has a soul to it." - Sam Maloof
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