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As I posted over in the Friday thread, my FIL went to the ER Thursday night. When we got there the head doctor came out to let us know his blood pressure was dropping drastically and there wasn't going to be much they could do to save him if it didn't stabilize. That moment our hearts sunk and my MIL broke down. As the night went on, he improved, and they dialed in on the problem. The realization that we know nothing about their health, financial stance, or their wishes became apparent. My MIL is showing signs of early memory loss, she couldn't remember his wishes they talked about, if he had allergies, what medications he was taking. They found he was suffering from septic shock (blood infection), brought on from a pneumonia. He has made a dramatic turn-around, all vitals are back to normal before we came home tonight and my BIL just texted that they removed his ventilator. He should be moved out of the ICU on Monday.
So, now that I've bummed you all out, I've been doing some list making. I had started the second list a year or so back out of some lessons from Dave Ramsey and have been checking things off and some of it may be specific to Missouri, the first part came out of this weekend's activities.
I figured I'd post it here to get the collective input from all of you for anything I may be overlooking, I'd appreciate any input you all may have.
For on-going care giving and staying in the loop:
For taking care of things when there is no one to ask:
Notes/Links:
Probate assets are any assets that are owned solely by the decedent. This can include the following:
Non-probate assets can include the following:
The probate process includes filing a will and appointing an executor or administrator, collecting assets, paying bills, filing taxes, distributing property to heirs, and filing a final account. This can be a costly and time-consuming process, which is why some people try to avoid probate by having only non-probate assets.
So, now that I've bummed you all out, I've been doing some list making. I had started the second list a year or so back out of some lessons from Dave Ramsey and have been checking things off and some of it may be specific to Missouri, the first part came out of this weekend's activities.
I figured I'd post it here to get the collective input from all of you for anything I may be overlooking, I'd appreciate any input you all may have.
For on-going care giving and staying in the loop:
- Keep current prescription list and supplements being taken
- List of doctors for each parent
- List of recent medical appointments, any upcoming
- Keep medical record copies, scan and keep in shared location (google docs maybe)
- Copies of life directives, wishes.
- List of Allergies?
- Medical Insurance details
- Life insurance beneficiary info recorded?
For taking care of things when there is no one to ask:
- Legacy Letters - Letters to kids/grandkids
- Birth Certificates, Social Security Cards, Marriage Certificate and Passports
- Insurance Information (auto, homeowner’s, renter’s, health, long-term care, identity theft protection and life insurance)
- Estate Plan
- Power of Attorney Forms
- Living Will
- Wills and Funeral Instructions
- Financial Accounts Log
- Assets
- Debts
- Mortgage
- List of Life Insurance Benefits
- Accounts that have Beneficiaries
- Trust assets
- Bill Listing
- Subscriptions
- Safe Deposit Box Details
- Monthly Budget
- Tax Returns
- Money Market and Mutual Fund Statements
- College Funds
- Bank and Savings Accounts
- Other Financial Accounts
- Paypal
- Rental Property Summary
- Car Titles
- Home Ownership Records
- Passwords and Combinations
- Firearms - In Missouri, there is no firearm registry and therefore legal to will the firearm to any individual that normally could legally own a firearm.
Notes/Links:
- Beneficiary Deeds in MO: http://info.legalzoom.com/prepare-own-beneficiary-deed-missouri-20710.html
Probate assets are any assets that are owned solely by the decedent. This can include the following:
- Real property that is titled solely in the decedent's name or held as a tenant in common
- Personal property, such as jewelry, furniture, and automobiles
- Bank accounts that are solely in the decedent's name
- An interest in a partnership, corporation, or limited liability company
- Any life insurance policy or brokerage account that lists either the decedent or the estate as the beneficiary
Non-probate assets can include the following:
- Property that is held in joint tenancy or as tenants by the entirety
- Bank or brokerage accounts held in joint tenancy or with payable on death (POD) or transfer on death (TOD) beneficiaries
- Property held in a trust
- Life insurance or brokerage accounts that list someone other than the decedent as the beneficiary
- Retirement accounts
The probate process includes filing a will and appointing an executor or administrator, collecting assets, paying bills, filing taxes, distributing property to heirs, and filing a final account. This can be a costly and time-consuming process, which is why some people try to avoid probate by having only non-probate assets.